“Only a man himself can be the savior of himself, who else from outside could be his savior? With oneself controlled, one obtains a savior that is difficult to find.” (Dhp XII:160) –Translation of The Dhammapada by Narada Thera.
When someone insults, hurts, or “makes” us angry, and we react in kind, we often express our regret by saying, “Look what s/he made me do!” Then, we wonder,”How could they have done that to me?” In truth, we should be asking, instead, “Why do they have more control over my emotions/actions/kamma (karma) than do I?”
While I ‘know’ this on ‘good’ days, I sometimes demonstrate, by words or actions, that I’ve forgotten the same, i.e., haven’t yet realized this.
No one can “make” us anything but dead; and even then, we do not ever truly die. Nonetheless, ‘knowing’ is not enough, and thankfully, this, in itself, is a realization…